I have two kids. And some days that feels like a lot, but then again I consider the women who have 4 or 6 or 8 or whatever. And I wonder what is wrong with me because I have not mopped my kitchen floor since Norah was born almost 6 weeks ago. How do these superwomen do it? And really even the mom with two little ones and a coordinated outfit and a reasonably clean house is seeming pretty impressive to me right now.
On the whole, I don’t feel as chaotic or overwhelmed as I expected to, but my house is SO MESSY now. I need to stop saying messy and just qualify it as dirty since that is where we are these days. I’m developing sensory issues from the crumb situation, and two hungry dogs can’t keep up with it. The actual temperature in Atlanta is supposed to reach 102 in the next few days, and even a native southerner can’t do that. So inside the dirty house we will be, making it even dirtier most likely. But “don’t make a mess” is such an abstract statement to a 2 year old, I’m realizing.
And I was thinking last night about how there is an entire year chronicled on this blog when I completed craft projects every single month. Like real stuff I actually made with my two free hands and time I actually had. And that, friends, is an abstract concept for me right now.
I know these months and years are precious. I know I will miss them one day. 90% of the time, I love it even now. But I don’t remember the last time I wore lipstick or had clean floors and an empty laundry basket. This boring, pictureless post just needed to get out there. Like if I say it aloud, it is somehow better.
6 thoughts on “real life”
There is nothing wrong with you! You have a toddler and a newborn and that is a lot. The women with 4 or 6 or 8 kids have older kids that can help with housework. And maybe the mom in the coordinated outfit with two little ones has a housekeeper or family member who comes over to help.
I’d be happy to come over to help you. I can clean or I can keep an eye on the kids so you can do what you need to do. I know that we don’t know each other that well, but it would be a pleasure to help you. My daughter just left for college so I have more free time right now. And my house is messy so what’s my excuse! 🙂
That is so sweet, Beth! It’s interesting to hear you talk about having an empty nest when I am at this stage of the game. I know it goes by so fast! I actually have family close by, and I think writing this post makes me realize I should use them more often to help, especially in this transitional stage. What I’d really LOVE to do is browse yarn even if I won’t use it for a while. I’ll call on you for that sometime. 🙂
There’s nothing boring or pictureless about this post. You sound amazing!
It wasn’t really until the last six months that I felt I could really pursue hobbies. So, I am not sure how you did all the knitting with even one kid! 🙂
Is now a bad time to say that I STILL have a messy…err, dirty…house and Elijah is 5 months old now? Since I have started back to work, the house has become WAY out of control, not that it was under control to begin with. My theory? I would rather spend precious time with my kids rather than have a spotless house. I can clean when they go to college and until then, I will settle for just a little messy. 🙂 Hang in there. You will all develop a routine before long and you can gain a little more control again!
You are so right about spending these moments with our kids instead of worrying about the house or whatever else is on our minds. I hope the routine will help smooth things out a bit as well. Your Elijah is growing so so fast! These years are flying by. ❤
I know what you mean about “just getting it out there.” I’ve been grappling with single mom woes (guilt feelings, etc.) and sometimes it’s great just to be able to blast off a post about whatever is cluttering the brain.